In addition to struggling with authority issues, selfish people tend to see themselves as better than others. While this is often false, it makes them susceptible to false praise and targeted propaganda. A humble mindset avoids these delusions of grandeur.
Investigating the Devil’s approach towards Eve in the Garden of Eden, it becomes evident that superiority is another strategy used to deceive man through our self-interest. “You will not surely die,” the serpent said to the woman. “For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil. When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.” (Genesis 3:4-6 NIV) Hearing that she could gain knowledge and be “like God”, and thinking that the fruit was “desirable for gaining wisdom”, Eve let the temptation of personal benefit, instantaneous gratification, and becoming more superior overtake her sense of good judgment.
On the other hand, unselfish people are less tempted by the notion of being better than others. Christians are conscious of the paradoxical message of Jesus in terms of giving precedence to others. “If anyone wants to be first, he must be the very last, and the servant of all.” (Mark 9:35 NIV) This is because there is much value in Christian service. The value is the benefit it provides to others. The irony is that Christians who are willing to put themselves last, who adhere to the path of servant-hood, will end up as superior in the eyes of the Lord, because they humbly behave in ways that are considerate to others. God's view is that giving consideration to others is wise, and it was exemplified by the life of Jesus, who did not seek equality with God.
"In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus, Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing, by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross! Therefore God exalted him to the highest place, and gave him the name that is above every name." (Philippians 2:6-9 NIV)
The Apostle Paul wrote “For the grace given to me I warn everyone among you not to estimate and think of himself more highly than he ought [not to have an exaggerated opinion of his own importance], but to rate his ability with sober judgement, each according to the degree of faith apportioned by God to him. After all, we are all made from the dust of the ground, regardless of one’s name, purpose, occupation, or financial status, we are all nothing without God.” (Romans 12:3 AMP) If our faith is paramount, we will endeavor to humbly exercise our God-given gifts to their full potential, but without being prideful or feeling superior in ourselves. The Kingdom of God is structured differently to that of the world we know. In God's Kingdom "all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted." (Luke 14:11 NIV)
Pride makes us have an exaggerated opinion of ourself, and tries to keep ourself exalted, and not care about others. Pride can affect us by making us greedy, and greedy people behave selfishly. They are inclined to withhold their giving from others, as they think that they are more important, and they deserve to keep everything rather than share it with those who are needful. They are less likely to listen to others, or show empathy, or trust other people; simply because in feeling superior they perceive other people as inferior. Superiority breeds both conceit and contempt. The arrogant person wants to be in control and expects others to serve him. But to be unselfish requires us to consider others better than ourselves. If we don't then we are allowing all the evils of pride and selfishness to potentially influence us. We can exalt others above ourselves by relinquishing our selfish motives, unpacking our selfish baggage and agendas; and embracing the opportunities of being empathetic, altruistic, giving to and serving others. Those who really excel in integrity don't act as superior, they are noticeably humble. In being humble they receive God's grace; and in receiving the gifts of God's grace, they become more valuable and effective in the Kingdom.